You see a job that you’d love to do; and, you decide to go for it.
You submit your application, and then are pleased to find a few days later that you’re invited for an interview. This goes well, and you begin to have quiet optimism that a job offer will be coming your way soon…
Instead, you receive a letter saying thank you — but, they’ve decided to go with another candidate.
At this point, you could allow yourself to feel defeated, sad, and perhaps even a little angry. These are normal responses to bad news. Yet, it’s not wise to let them fester and disrupt your goals. Successful people don’t let failures kill their dreams.
Sure, they might temporarily feel deflated. But, very quickly, they pick themselves back up again and begin planning their next steps towards success.
How about you? Do you currently feel embarrassed or guilty about failing?
Don’t worry if you do, as most of us have been programmed since childhood to see failure as a bad thing. Yet, as I’m going to show you in the next few minutes, this programming is dead wrong — failure is actually an essential part of success.
Don’t Be Tempted by Perfection
The first thing I want you to think about is this:
Resisting failure is, at its core, seeking perfection. And, perfection doesn’t exist.
That’s why perfectionists are also likely to be chronic procrastinators.
As Psychology Today noted in their article Pitfalls of Perfectionism, people who constantly seek for perfection stop themselves from engaging in challenging experiences. That’s because these perfectionists are less creative and innovative than the average person — plus they’re less likely to take risks. Add these factors together, and you have someone who is overly focused on their own performance and is always quick to defend themselves. Unfortunately, these traits prevent them from having the necessary focus when it comes to learning new tasks.
Let me be clear: Striving for perfection is not the same as striving for excellence.
The former is a fool’s quest for the unattainable; while the latter is really just about doing our very best (which we can all obtain).