I had a client once tell me that he wasn’t into the whole gratitude thing. No matter how much I convinced him to try it out, he assured me that it was too sappy, too much like Thanksgiving, and he was not going to do it. We had to find another way.
That night, I flipped through the channels aimlessly, and I came across an old Disney show I used to watch, The Proud Family. In it, fourteen-year-old Penny Proud experiences many different situations and challenges related to growing up. But no matter the situation, there is one thing that always remains constant.
The tremendous pride her family takes in the young woman she is becoming.
They constantly remind her how much they love her; how proud they are of her. This forces Penny to realize that she must be proud of herself as well.
As I thought about my client and how we could emulate the effects of a gratitude practice, I discovered that a Pride Practice would work just as well.
To keep things simple, my client and I created three different forms of pride statements. Skills, actions, and opportunities. Each morning he wakes up, he writes down one statement in each category on his pride paper.
These are the talents with which you realize you excel. You are in awe of how great you are at putting together a puzzle. You take pride in your daily crossword. You can’t even fathom how you sing the way you do. These simple statements allow you to realize how amazing you truly are.
I am proud of my ability to dance and win competitions.
These are reminders of the things you do on a daily basis that do good for the world. You are so proud that you held the door open for a woman with full hands of groceries. You are thrilled to have given somebody a compliment about their new hairdo. You pat yourself on the back for spending your Friday night volunteering instead of partying. Prideful actions make you realize what truly matters most to you and the world.
I am proud that I spent time with my family yesterday instead of going to a friends.
Being proud of opportunities you have had in the past or created in the future reminds you of the journey you are on to becoming the person you ultimately wish to become. You are the first in your family to receive your high school diploma. You have been given a job offer at your dream firm. You have created a new app that will help bring others together. These opportunities are huge, and they should be celebrated.
I am proud that I was asked to give the presentation for my team’s next client pitch.
I know you may think it seems silly. I know you may think it seems basic. I know my client sure did. But after implementing a pride practice into his morning routine, he gained perspective. This is what it’s all about. He noticed how many things there were in his life to be proud of. He understood how many more prideful moments there were to come. It helped begin every single day with positivity, optimism, and joy.
It’s your turn to begin a pride practice. Pat yourself on the back and get started.