When you cultivate relationships with new people that forge a lifelong bond, it is doubtful that you are going to try to change that person. You’re not going to make them feel that they are any less of a person because of who they are, what they like, or what they pursue in life. We all know that this isn’t the right way to make connections with another human being.
Yet when we approach ourselves and continue our relationships with ourselves, there seems to be a desire to change, punish, or alter ourselves to meet certain expectations. If you were doing this to another person, this would be seen as unacceptable! We shouldn’t treat ourselves any differently.
The simple truth of life is that your only stable and lifelong relationship is with yourself. Because of this, it is the most important one you are going to have and, one that you will need to nurture if you want to lead a happy life. True, you will want to change some things but there is a massive benefit to simply accepting and moving forward from there.
If you have a hard time settling down with you, here are some tips on how to accept yourself so that you can start living a life that others dream of!
1. Take Some Time to Sit With Yourself and Discover Who You Are
The major problem that many people face when it comes to self-acceptance is that they have yet to engage in self-discovery. Many people may feel purposeless and lost, which is ultimately due to a lack of self and an unclear understanding of who you are and what you want.
Self-discovery is a necessary first step but it is one that comes with a lot of work and is ever-changing. Starting your own self-discovery journey may consist of the following:
Discovering Your Purpose
Each of us may feel like we are called to do something at some point in time that will help to grow others as well as ourselves.
What are you passionate about? What gets you fired up and makes you forget about everything else? What is something that you could picture doing for the rest of your life?
Sometimes, the best way to discover purpose is simply to go out and do until you learn more about where your passions lie.
Learning More About Your Values and Beliefs
Values and beliefs, which may stem from childhood or, may come from experience in recent years, help to set up structure in our lives and drive us towards the things that matter most to us.
Are you someone who has strong ties to family? Do you rely on honesty and integrity to live your life? What are your spiritual or religious beliefs? What type of community do you want to build or belong to?
These are some important questions to ask as these questions dictate what choices you make along your path.
Journal and Keep Track of the Day-to-Day
Even if you are unsure of who you are, what you do on a regular basis will certainly tell you everything you need to know.
What are some things that you like to do? What are things that are not necessarily fun for you? What are some habits that you have cultivated, healthy or otherwise? What are your dreams? Ambitions? Goals?