We live in a society where it is important to fit in. Leading a positive and happy life is highly valued and feeling sad or “blue” about life is not so valued. As a result, we are constantly trying to always be positive and happy. In our minds there is no room for sadness.
This is not a realistic way to live life.
Telling yourself to be positive is no help to you because your sadness when it hits you has a life of its own. Keeping up an impression of positivity and happiness when you are feeling sad is draining and hard work. If anything this charade will intensify your feelings of sadness, and you will struggle to find the pathway that will lead you to live a happy, resilient life.
I believe that sadness is a baseline feeling that feeds into all of our other feelings such as anger, frustration, and fear. The deeper we bury the feeling of sadness the harder it is to feel happy.