The aftermath of a breakup is traumatic, especially if it was after a long-term relationship. It can leave you with a feeling of loveless limbo.
Did you know experts indicate that 90% of the rebound relationship fails within the first three months?
So are rebound relationships are unhealthy and unproductive? Or do they actually work out for the best? Here’s what some studies and experts have to say about the two possibilities…
The Purpose of a Rebound Relationship
A study by researchers at Queens College and the University of Illinois in 2014 revealed that rebound relationships serve an essential psychological purpose. The results of the research revealed that rebounds help the recently broken-hearted to move on and heal more quickly than the ex-partners who deal with their breakup in their loneliness.
According to Theresa Didonato Ph.D., people who dive in to rebound relationships get over their ex-partners quicker and feel more confident in their ability to date.
A rebound relationship:
- Helps a person with high attachment anxiety to server their emotional attachment to their ex-partners.
- Helps the ex-partner get over their anger at the ex and move on with their lives.
- Improves the person’s well-being and self-esteem.
- Provides solace, intimacy, and social stimulation during the healing process.
- Prevents unhealthy reunions with the exes.
- Gives the person an opportunity to figure out what type of partner compliments them, which is impossible to do when one is flying solo.
- Provides companionship. A fling may be what one needs to shield them from the loneliness that comes with being newly single.
- Helps a person recover faster because they feel more desirable.
Signs of a Rebound Relationship
How soon is too soon to get into a relationship post-split up? Are you clear about the nature of your current relationship? Are you one of the rebounds in a relationship?
To achieve this clarity, here are some signs to watch out for:
Get into a relationship soon after a breakup
Many rebound partners feel that their hurt will be soothed if they find the company of a new partner. One could, therefore, be living in the illusion of ‘moving on’ but in reality, they are stuck in the pain of the old relationship. Experts recommend waiting for at least 3 to 4 months after a breakup to recover from heartbreak.
Date to make your ex jealous
Some rebounders may start showering their attention on a new partner to make their ex jealous and boost their ego. The new partner is used as a trophy to ‘show off’ to the ex.
Get involved with someone casually; purely for physical purposes
The breakup from a long-term relationship leaves one’s faith in relationships shattered. One may be left feeling that all romances end in disaster.
As such, the person will get into relationships with ‘no strings attached’ tag. They become commitment-phobic, and they get into relationships for the convenience of having sex with a current partner.