When we hear about increasing our influence or using persuasive techniques, sometimes we tend to think of someone who is being manipulative, that they have a sneaky way of getting what they want by wielding some power over others. Maybe we even think about someone who is playing mind games in order to gain control of a situation or others.
The reality is that being influential helps us in many aspects of our everyday life. Since we interact and communicate with people in all areas of our life, the ability to influence is extremely beneficial. Let’s look at 7 powerful persuasive techniques to increase your influence.
What Is Influence?
Influence is the power to have an important effect on someone or something. If one person influences another person, they are changing the other person in some way. It could be the decision they are going to make about something, or they way they think about a certain topic, or a way they go about something.
It involves getting people to change their minds about a topic or subject and to act in a certain way by acknowledging their feelings and bringing them around to a similar way of thinking or seeing something. Influencing others can make just about any job or tough situation easier for everyone involved.
Really, it’s about getting several people aligned on a specific topic and moving forward in a positive manner that everyone thinks is best.
How Persuasive Techniques Help You Influence Others
The ability to bring other people around to your way of thinking without forcing them to or without coercion is incredibly beneficial. If you are a manager or leader, you need to be able to show people that you know what you are doing and motivate them to work in a productive manner.
If you are in sales, you need to be able to demonstrate that your product or service has high value. In personal relationships, the ability to influence your partner or friends to your way of thinking has a way of getting multiple people on the same page and working towards the same goal or game plan.
The bottom line is that using persuasive techniques as a form of influence is a top way to get others to see things the same way you do and to gain buy-in to move forward. This translates very well in the workplace, but is also very important in our personal relationships.
Where Persuasive Techniques Work Best
There are many situations where influence will help you, but work and personal life are two of the main ones. Let’s see how you can use influence to your advantage.
Let’s say you’re in sales. When you work in sales, your job is to sell something that your company offers. This could be a service like window cleaning or shipping, or it could be an actual product like paper towels. In any event, you can be sure you have lots of competition. Your job is to know how your product or service stacks up against the competition and sell it based on the positive aspects of said product or service.
When speaking to potential buyers, you have to be able to influence them to the point where they see that your product or service is the right solution for them and their company or customers. You, of course, must also believe it’s the best solution.
Another work example would be if you are a manager. As you work to get your team working well together on a project, you must have strong influencing skills. This comes into play as you set the direction for the project and lead the team to success.
If someone thinks something should be done a different way, we will see soon how listening and acknowledging them is critical. As you navigate your way through the project, you as the leader will be making the decisions, and it’s important to be able to show and lead others to the path of success. Influencing them along the way will prove incredibly valuable
Let’s say you and your spouse have different perspectives on how much you should be saving for retirement. Your spouse says saving 3% of your income is plenty for when retirement comes around. You feel very strongly through your research and discussions with your financial advisor that you need to be saving at least 6% or 7% to reach your retirement goal. How are you going to change your spouse’s mind so they see the benefit of saving more for retirement?
By influencing them to see things from your perspective and point of view! Of course, you both must agree on what the end result or number should look like. You will most likely need to show your spouse various charts and projections and specialist advice to see if you can get them to change their mind to match your vision.
Now, let’s take a look at 7 powerful persuasive techniques to increase your influence.
7 Powerful Persuasive Techniques to Increase Your Influence
These can be used individually or combined depending on the situation you’re facing. Use them wisely, and you’ll find you’re getting more of what you want!
1. Connect with Others
One of the easiest and quickest techniques to influencing others is to simply connect with them. Connecting means being present and responsive, spending time with them, and being a good coworker or friend or whatever the relationship entails. When we feel connected to someone, we are much more likely to listen to their advice and their point of view on things.
Compare this to someone you don’t like trying to get you to do something. Who are you most likely going to listen to and potentially be influenced by? The person you like, of course!
2. Respect the Opinion of Others
Similar to creating a connection, when you respect the opinion of others, it goes a long way towards helping you influence them when the time is right. It boils down to the need to feel understood by others.
There is almost no greater need than the need to be understood by other people. When we feel understood, we don’t feel alone; we feel like there is someone who understands how we feel. When you show someone that you respect their opinion, it makes them feel understood. It also makes them feel like their opinion is of importance to you and that you value and respect their point of view. This will earn you some serious points and is one of the most powerful persuasive techniques.
3. Make Others Feel Important
Along the same lines as respecting someone’s opinion, it is also beneficial to make them feel important. Feeling valued and appreciated in the workplace is the number one factor in job satisfaction. It has been shown over and over that people who feel valued and important in the workplace are the most satisfied with their job, boss, and company.
If you have the ability to make someone feel important, it will definitely help you in influencing them when the need is there. I think about the times when my manager tells me I’ve done a great job on something and that my skills in XYZ are hugely beneficial to the company, and it always makes me feel great. When she then follows up with getting me involved or onboarded with a project soon after a comment like that, I am much more likely to happily agree.
4. Build Your Credibility
As you build your credibility in your area of expertise over time, you find that more and more people seek you out. They respect the results and accomplishments you’ve received, and this builds your credibility. As your credibility increases, you find yourself in situations more and more often when people seek you out for advice. In a way, they are asking to be influenced by you due to your knowledge and expertise in certain areas.
On a personal level, I have been recruiting sales talent for over a decade. Needless to say, I’ve become pretty good at it. As such, I am asked to be involved in many sales-related initiatives that aren’t even related to recruiting
On a personal level, I have been into fitness and wellness for many years. Because of this, I have friends and family who reach out to me fairly regularly to ask my advice on a new diet plan or workout regime they are thinking about trying. This all comes down to my credibility in certain areas. We all have them, and in these areas we are able to exert influence quite regularly.
Have you ever had someone ask you for a favor after buying you lunch or dinner? This is the power of reciprocity at work. When someone does a favor or something nice for you, it almost always triggers an overwhelming feeling of obligation that you must do something nice for them next.
From a marketing perspective, you might see this as the company throwing in something “free” or “extra” for your purchase. Because you feel like they are doing you a favor by including the “free” item, it makes you feel stronger about making the purchase.
In relationships, this works very well when you do a favor or help someone out in some way. They then feel obligated to help you out as well. This is a powerful tool in your persuasive toolkit.
Scarcity is an influencing technique you see many times in marketing. When we see things advertised like “limited time offer” or “Memorial Day Sale Only,” it creates a sense of urgency in us. We feel like we have to hurry up or miss out on this fantastic offer they are only giving us on a very limited basis. And we don’t want to miss out! They are pushing our scarcity button.
This can also be used by us as individuals as one of our persuasive techniques. If we are leading a team and we say things like “We need to be the first to market on this or else our main competitor is going to get a big advantage,” it makes us want to get to market first. We don’t want to miss out on being the number one company.
It can also be used on an individual basis. Our manager might suggest we study for and achieve an additional certification that will help us get better at some component of our job. If we don’t hurry up and get with it, we might miss out on the next promotion.
7. Give People What They Want
Finally, a great influencing technique is to give people what they want. You accomplish this by helping others see that whatever issue you are trying to influence will positively impact them.
For example, let’s say your firm has an opportunity to land a big new client you are excited about. You also know it’s going to take a huge amount of work to put the winning proposal together to land the client. A way to help influence your team to come together and work hard on that proposal is to share with them how landing this big new client could positively impact their yearly bonus or career growth. I mean, being the team that lands the biggest new deal for the year is bound to reap them praise and possibly compensation, as well as help grow their careers. You’ve shown them how working towards this goal will give them something they want. Well done!
The Bottom Line
Look at you, you’re quite the influencer now aren’t you? We’ve looked at how powerful persuasive techniques can help you increase you ability to influence others. In many ways, influencing others is really all about getting people to work together to achieve a common goal. I think we can all agree how great it feels to work together to achieve more