How do you navigate the additional battles experienced with interracial relationships? What are the pitfalls you need to know about?
Being in charge of your emotions will definitely help reduce interracial tension, however, it’s best to put preventative measures in place so you don’t find yourself overreacting unnecessarily.
This article details 6 of the true struggles experienced by interracial couples and what you can do to prevent them.
How would your life change if it was easy to enjoy your choice of partner?
1. Your interracial relationship is very likely to involve two different value systems.
According to Dr. Sidney Simon (author of Values Clarification), different value systems can easily cause conflict in a relationship. If what matters most to one person doesn’t matter to the other, the relationship isn’t sustainable in the long term.
For example, Lina is an Asian woman married to an Australian named Steven. Since most Australians value a relaxed lifestyle, Lina finds it hard to understand why her husband doesn’t want to be a business owner. In Asian culture, wealth creation is more important than relaxation.
In this case, Lina’s top value is wealth creation, whereas Steven doesn’t think wealth creation is very important at all. Consequently, this interracial couple frequently experiences tension due to conflicting values.
How to overcome this struggle?
Lina and Steven would be well-advised to accept and respect their different value systems.
Lina could start her own business and allow Steven to focus his attention on whatever makes him happy. While sharing a common direction is ideal, a couple doesn’t have to connect with each other through career goals.
In other words, interracial couples can connect with each other through their shared interests, and respect and accept their differences.