When life knocks you down and leaves you feeling battered and bruised, how do you help yourself get back into the game?
The natural reaction is to spiral into panic and worry. Let’s face it, a knockdown can be emotionally and mentally exhausting.
I think we can all agree that life can be a roller coaster ride at times. The way that I see it is that you can either scream your way through it or strap yourself in and move with the mess.
I believe that the core difference between those who thrive through life, versus those who fall apart at the first sign of struggle, is their mental strength.
Mental strength refers to the resilience and strength that people possess to soldier through struggles and succeed. It is the secret sauce that allows you to push past exhaustion when everything in your body says just quit, but your mind refuses to give up.
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The Importance of Advancing Your Mental Strength?
Mentally strong people decide from day one that they will not allow their circumstances to define or destroy them. When something doesn’t go their way, they don’t curl up in a ball and give up.
Instead, they stand back up, wipe away their tears, and use the challenges as opportunities to prove to themselves and the world that they can overcome anything and everything.
I’ve got great news. Mental strength isn’t a superhuman trait. Instead, it’s something that you can develop and master, through trial and error. I believe that all of us have the capacity to conquer life’s greatest challenges.
Take a moment and think back to a challenge that you had to overcome. What traits did you have to pull upon in order to get through that difficult time?
We don’t give ourselves enough credit for how far we’ve come, and what it took for us to get to where we are today. I’ve faced countless setbacks in my life, one of which was a car accident that almost left me paralyzed.
At the time, it’s fair to say that being “positive pam” wasn’t on the top of my list. There were countless times when I just wanted to give up, but I didn’t. That’s all that matters.
I was committed to doing whatever was required of me in order to come back stronger than ever before.
Let’s face it… life doesn’t always like your plans.
Sometimes you’ve just got to roll with the punches. When life hits you, why not hit back harder? You’ve got nothing to lose by trying. By no means do I have it all figured out. None of us do.
However, I do know that the tough times have made me a stronger and more resilient human being. The train wreck moments when my life felt as if it was falling apart proved to be signs that better things were actually falling back together.
Why Is Mental Strength Hard to Achieve?
Your mind is a powerful tool. It can be your best friend or your worst enemy. Here’s the kicker… we all have that voice inside of our heads, otherwise known as your inner critic.
Rather than empathize with you, this voice basks in the enjoyment of beating you down and trying to convince you that you are not the CEO of your life.
You aren’t strong enough
You’re messed up.
You can’t get through this.
You aren’t worthy of happiness.
Unfortunately, a lot of people allow this voice to dim their light and dictate every decision in their life. The bottom line is that your inner critic robs you of your mental strength. However, it’s important to not silence this voice without understanding where it comes from.
A lot of people fall into the trap of assuming that, because they are thinking awful things about themselves, they must be true. Right? Wrong.
In actuality, your inner critic is your inner child. Psychologists believe these voices are residues of childhood experiences. We become so used to living in accordance with these narratives that we don’t even notice or question them.
Ironically, your inner critic just wants to help you. Talk about mind games at their finest! I want to propose a different perspective. Instead of fighting with this critical voice, what would happen if you reframed the intention behind it?
Help yourself by transforming your inner critic into your inner coach. Whereas a critic knocks you down, a coach challenges you to find solutions and gives you the confidence to face new obstacles with courage, grace, and determination.
For example, you could say out loud to yourself, “Critic, thanks for trying so hard to keep me safe but it’s time for you to step aside now. I’ve got this.”
The beauty of life is that, at any given moment, you have the power to rewrite your story and unleash the strength that has always been a part of you.