Who doesn’t love a good fairy tale? Everyone! And most of us want to believe that when we find our Prince Charming (or Princess) that we’ll easily ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after.
But for so many couples, that simply doesn’t happen.
With the divorce rate around 50%, it is clear that most people don’t know how to create and maintain healthy relationships and marriages.
If you think about it, that’s not very surprising. I mean, it’s not like any of us had a class in school called “Love and Marriage 101.” In fact, most of us never learned any life skills at all, let alone relationship skills.
So, it’s no wonder most couples are floundering out there and don’t know how to save themselves.
As a dating coach and communication professor, I hear people complain about relationships all the time. And do you want to know what the top complaint is that I hear all the time is? It is…
“Relationships are so difficult!”
And I always respond:
“Relationships aren’t inherently difficult. It’s the people involved in the relationships that MAKE them difficult.”
So, whether you are embarking on a new relationship, or trying to fix a 50-year-old marriage, here are some tips for you.
1. Know your love languages.
If you’ve never heard of the book, The Five Love Languages, then you should definitely read it.
Written by marriage therapist, Gary Chapman, it explains how there are basically five main ways that a person expresses and wants to receive love. And you and your partner may not do it the same way. Reading it will help you understand yourself and them better.
You can also take a look at this article to learn a bit more about the five love languages:
2. Empathize with each other.
One main problem with relationships is that most people only see their own point of view. It’s inevitable that couples will have disagreements. But that doesn’t mean it has to damage your relationship.
So, in order to really understand each other, you have to listen to and accept the other person’s point of view. Everyone deserves to be understood:
3. Have date night.
One of the sad things about relationships as the years go on is that people forget to “date” each other. They think the “work” is done because they’re so comfortable with one another.
But sometimes life, and kids, get in the way of keeping the romance alive. It’s essential that you go out on date nights so you can consistently keep connecting.